Avoiding Stress While Planning A Wedding (And in Daily Life)

Are you a bride or fellow wedding professional in the midst of planning a wedding? Or maybe you are a mom of little ones trying to find enough time in the day to get everything done. This post is for you! 

I think one of the biggest compliments to receive as a wedding planner on a wedding day is, "You seem so calm and peaceful!" That phrase always makes me smile and reminds me that I truly found what I love to do. At most events, I really do feel calm and relaxed, but that's because a lot of hind-work has already gone into the big day!

But don't get me wrong...some days are stressful. I am a wedding/event planner but I'm also a wife, mom, friend, sister, daughter...the list goes on. Sometimes it feels like the to do lists will never get done. So how do I avoid stress while planning a wedding (or even 10 weddings at a time)? Read on to hear some of the best tips and tricks I've learned. 

1. Take Care of YOU

Oh my...I know what you may be thinking. "I have so much to get done, I don't have time to read a magazine, get coffee with a friend, go for a jog..." Logically, that may make sense, but it never works. Choose to not take care of yourself and it will show in the work you produce. Sorry for the harsh words! But it's true, as I've been there myself! We all have needs; we're human. 

YOU are the most important person in this picture. When you take care of yourself, you're NOT being selfish. You are actually making yourself a better, happier, more relaxed individual. Go do that thing you've wanted to do for so long but you keep putting off. And then come back and tackle your to do list! You'll be a better fiancé, mom, businessperson because of it! For me, this looks like taking the occasional nap or planning a date night with my hubby. Learn what 'refuels' you and take the time do to those things <3

2. Set Intentional Time Aside

If you're a bride planning a wedding this might look like sitting down with your fiancé every Monday for 90 minutes or so to tackle a bunch of your wedding to-do's. Even as someone who loves making checklists, I know first hand that looking over those lists can feel overwhelming at times. The best thing I've discovered is to set intentional time aside to work on those tasks at hand. You'll be amazed at how many phone calls, emails or tasks you can get done in a short amount of time when you're not distracted. So grab a cup of coffee, tea or wine ;) and get to work! 

3. Plan Ahead

As a planner, this one comes naturally for me but I know for some, it goes completely against their nature. (I married such a fun, spontaneous-natured man who is learning to plan ahead...LOVE YOU CHRIS!) When you plan ahead, you also give yourself some flexibility when something comes up and you 'miss' a deadline. If you want to have task X,Y,&Z done by a certain date, plan to have it done one week earlier. And give yourself grace if it takes you an extra day or two. After all, that's what that extra time is there for! 

Let's chat!

I'd love to hear any questions or thoughts you might have around avoiding stress during wedding planning or even life in general. Comment or send me a message and let's chat! I'd also love to hear what tips and tricks you've learned in keeping stress at bay! 


Brittany and David: Gover Ranch

Brittany and David had a stunning wedding out at Gover Ranch in Anderson, CA this July. Everything looked stunning, from the menu cards, to the cake, to the floral arrangements. Brittany chose beautiful colors for her wedding. The rose gold, navy and dusty pink were the perfect color combination! One thing I love about Gover Ranch is the amount of space there is. You can choose from multiple locations on the property to have your ceremony and reception space. And the getting ready room for the bride and her girls is the most gorgeous I've seen! 

One of the best parts about this day was the unique ceremony that fit Brittany and David perfectly. Brittany's dad walked her down the aisle, to find that the officiant was not present (shocker to the guests, but not the bride and groom!). Then out of no where, one of the groomsmen (Brittany's brother in law) pops out and volunteers to marry them! It was such a fun time to see the guests react as Brittany and David played a little joke on everyone ;)

Photos by Holly Kiker Photography

Florals by Velours Designs

Rentals by Rustic Charm and My Dear Weddings 







Elisha & Gabe (McCloud, CA)

July 29, 2017 was one of the most beautiful days McCloud, CA ever saw. It was hot, but that didn't keep Elisha and Gabe from celebrating and dancing the night away with their friends and family. To cool things off, they even served Haagan Dazs ice cream bars for dessert--a highlight for everyone! Congrats to the new Mr. and Mrs. Porter! <3


Venue: McCloud Guest House

Photography: Hannah Merritt Photography

Florals: Mt. Shasta Florist

Catering: Raymond's Italian Catering 

DJ: DJ Doug Cain

Gorgeous flowers done by the Mt. Shasta Florist

Gorgeous flowers done by the Mt. Shasta Florist

Hannah Merritt Photography did an AMAZING job capturing every moment of the day

Hannah Merritt Photography did an AMAZING job capturing every moment of the day

Mt. Shasta makes for a gorgeous backdrop at the McCloud Guest House

Mt. Shasta makes for a gorgeous backdrop at the McCloud Guest House

Elegant outdoor table settings

Elegant outdoor table settings

Margaritas for the win!

Margaritas for the win!

Gabe and Elisha blew everyone away with their first dance &lt;3

Gabe and Elisha blew everyone away with their first dance <3

And of course, ice cream to end the night!

And of course, ice cream to end the night!